If We Are Not Buddies, In The Same Circle Or Living Together Don’t Address Me Using ‘Dear’- Toke Makinwa

Media personality, Toke Makinwa has taken to social media to caution her fans on addressing her as ‘dear’ if they are friends. or do not know each other.

According to her, the only people who have the right to call her dear are her buddies, people in her circle and those living with her. She noted that the rest should call her with her name or address her with hi or hello.

Her tweets read: Nothing makes me cringe as much as hearing a younger person use “dear” to address me,even worse if we are not friendly, stop using endearing words for people who are not in your circle, who is your “dear”? Use my name or just say hello/hi, you don’t know me that well.

I am not so big on respect but if there’s a good 15 years between us and I am not your buddy, just say hi/hello or use my name, endearments are sometimes too familiar or is it the African in me jumping out, I’m open to this discussion

I’ll pick darling over “dear”. Maybe I just don’t like that word. Again only if we are familiar. Maybe I’m not “western” enough, perhaps I need more westernization

Another one, why do we sis a lot? Is calling someone by their name really against our culture? Why do we like to use sis or bro a lot?

It’s not really about the age but more the “familiarity”, if we are not buddies, in the same circle, living together I’ll just preferred if words of endearments such as “dear” are left outside our interactions


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